Sorry about Gilmore. Went through same a while back. Very heartbreaking.
Edmund
December 10, 2010 at 7:09 am
I’m sorry to hear that, having read about your attachment to him and having been in the same situation myself before. One of the wonderful things about pets is that they celebrate life and never fear death – in this they are a model for our lives.
(Yet another John)
December 10, 2010 at 7:11 am
Condolences.
Vincent
December 10, 2010 at 7:15 am
Condolences, Bob.
I hope your kids are able to take it okay. I hope you’re able to take it as well as can be expected also.
Uno
December 10, 2010 at 7:17 am
So sorry. My heart goes out to you.
Joe Dokes
December 10, 2010 at 7:27 am
Many commentators often wonder why dogs get more sympathy than people. For example, a blind man and his seeing eye dog get hit by a car. The dog will get more get-well-soon cards than the man.
I think it is because dogs give us the type of loyalty and unconditional love that humans can only aspire to. You were loyal and faithful to your dog until the end, for that you are a better person.
Gilmore will always occupy a special place in your heart, I feel for your loss.
Regards,
Joe Dokes
Geoff
December 10, 2010 at 7:39 am
Sorry to hear that Bob. It can’t be easy having had your dog for so long. You have my sympathy.
I’m sorry to hear it Bob. It says a lot about the character of a man to read how you slept with and cared for him like you did as well as your sublimely succinct comment on it being hard to be with Gwen when she needed someone most. I’m glad there are people like you in the world – I’m fairly certain Gilmore and Gwen were glad too.
I read your blog for your reputation in technology and expertise in journalism but those few posts about Gilmore and Gwen are humbling in their humanity. Thank you.
Pete K
December 10, 2010 at 7:48 am
I’m so sorry, Bob. 🙁 Condolences to your whole family.
Really sorry to hear that, Bob. It’s the curse of dog-lovers to always outlive our canine friends. I’m sure that the joy he gave you far outweighs the pain of losing him.
Paul Ferguson
December 10, 2010 at 8:20 am
Condolences and sympathies Bob.
P
Monte
December 10, 2010 at 8:24 am
My sincere condolences go out to you and your family. Good-bye Gilmore.
After seeing this I went back a few days to your article titled “Dog Days.” Having not read it before and hearing it in your own words after his passing, I’m sure this entire article carries a different tone. It’s one that moved me. I am sorry for your loss and thank you for your words.
Condolences, Bob. Another friend of mine lost their dog this week too.
Kenny
December 10, 2010 at 9:11 am
Condolences Bob. Gilmore was blessed to have a companion like you though.
Bill B
December 10, 2010 at 9:14 am
A wise person, identity unknown, once described heaven as the place that when you get there, all the dogs you’ve ever known will come running to greet you.
Condolences.
Chris
December 10, 2010 at 9:31 am
Oh. Something wrong with my eyes today. I hope that turns out to be true.
I’m sorry for your loss. It’s the hardest thing to lose a friend, and pets are the best friends.
Andy
December 10, 2010 at 9:47 am
Peace Gilmore.
Jacob
December 10, 2010 at 10:03 am
RIP Gilmore. Bob, we are thinking about your family and you.
NoTalentHack
December 10, 2010 at 10:22 am
Condolences.
Tim Oppenheim
December 10, 2010 at 10:25 am
Bob and family,
Bonnie, Belle, Buster, Molly, Claude, and I send our deepest condolences. Our dogs love so deeply because their time is so short, blessed are those that know them as friends.
Our own dog died a bit over a year ago. He was our “first son”. It was cancer. It took two weeks from finding it to putting him to sleep as it was too spread out already.
My heart is with you.
Mark Hoban
December 10, 2010 at 11:17 am
So sorry Bob. We lost one just a couple of weeks ago. So painful. Take care.
Lisa
December 10, 2010 at 11:30 am
It is sad to lose our furry friends. I’m sure if Gilmore could speak, he would have said, “Thanks for loving me so much.”
Mark
December 10, 2010 at 11:33 am
Wheuuuw ……
Tough day for you, I know.
God, I love my little buddies, and hate to see them go.
Unknown author, great story :
Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog’s owners, Ron, his wife Lisa, and their little boy Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle.
I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family we couldn’t do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.
As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience.
The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker ‘s family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away.
The little boy seemed to accept Belker’s transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while after Belker’s Death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives.
Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, ”I know why.”
Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me. I’d never heard a more comforting explanation. It has changed the way I try and live.
He said,”People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life — like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?” The Six-year-old continued,
”Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don’t have to stay as long.”
Joel
December 10, 2010 at 11:47 am
My wife’s cat of 15 years got very sick and I had to bring him to the vet to be put down. I sat in the parking lot after cried. I know your pain.
Scott
December 10, 2010 at 11:50 am
My condolences too
Jimmy
December 10, 2010 at 11:59 am
Sorry for the loss of your puppy Bob =(
Kirkwood
December 10, 2010 at 12:02 pm
Condolences Bob and family. Labs are the sweetest, most loving and lovable, faithful, funny and dumb beings on the planet. : ) Every one should have a lab even though it hurts like hell to lose them.
Ypsi
December 10, 2010 at 12:15 pm
Bob and family: my condolences.
The good news is, you were able to make his last days more comfortable.
Many of us have been in your shoes, if that’s any comfort.
Daniel
December 10, 2010 at 12:30 pm
Substitute Gilmore for Lou Lou. My condolences, Bob.
RIP Lou Lou 1993-2010
May 22nd, 2010
Come old girl and walk with me
One more time together.
Foreign smells and stuff all out of place.
I’ll be your eyes, I’ll hold your head.
But I wish I could avert my face.
I’ll stroke your muzzle, try to calm your fears.
I know it hurts, but not much longer.
Sorry if my voice is gruff, I think it’s from the tears.
With shrouded form and shovel…
Come old girl and walk with me
One more time alone.
dave-ilsw
December 10, 2010 at 12:30 pm
My condolences to you and your family.
edh
December 10, 2010 at 12:45 pm
sorry- my sympathy to you.
pardeemp
December 10, 2010 at 12:47 pm
Sorry for your loss Bob and family.
Jerry
December 10, 2010 at 12:49 pm
I feel your pain. Our condolences to you and your family.
-Jerry
Jeff
December 10, 2010 at 12:57 pm
I’m so sorry for your loss. It must be so hard for the entire family.
My folks have been through this same very difficult situation with 3 dogs. I really don’t know how they coped. They each gave such love, joy, & companionship. That’s what they say to this day that it’s all that joy, love, etc. They had a Sheltie, Skipperkie, and a retied show dog(Sheltie).. So remember all those happy times you’ve had, it will help in time, really it does….
Steve Smith
December 10, 2010 at 1:57 pm
I send my condolences. In these dark days remember you and
your family gave Gilmore the best and happiest days of his life.
Dave
December 10, 2010 at 2:22 pm
Condolences, Bob and family.
There is nothing like a dog. Nothing.
The 2 dogs we’ve had over the last 20 years – a Border Collie and a German Shepherd – were practically doing differential equations, they were so smart. And they were absolutely members of the family.
The only downside to a pet – particularly a dog – is that it’s so hard to say goodbye.
Thank you for giving Gilmore such a good home – every dog deserves such a chance – and bless you for giving him your time and your company down the homestretch.
Mike Saint Louis
December 10, 2010 at 2:29 pm
Sorry to hear that Bob. I’ve been through this myself.
Condolences. I know I’m repeating what others have said, but I hope you can take comfort in the time you had with him and the life you were able to give him.
Jesse S.
December 10, 2010 at 2:41 pm
Sorry to hear about that. Never easy when a pet passes.
Jeremy Wilson
December 10, 2010 at 2:58 pm
I’m sorry for your loss. The best thing you can remember is that he knew he was loved.
mrbalky
December 10, 2010 at 2:59 pm
I’m very sorry to hear that. Been there a few times now; it’s so hard. You and the family have all my sympathy.
Derek
December 10, 2010 at 4:50 pm
My most sincere condolences. 🙁
A different Russ
December 10, 2010 at 4:52 pm
First time your web site has made me tear up. Godspeed Gilmore.
Very sorry to hear this, I hope you and yours heal well and before too long
Steve Mcconnell
December 10, 2010 at 6:52 pm
Sorry to hear.
Sensor Guy CTO
December 10, 2010 at 7:00 pm
Gone for just a while. You’ll meet up with him again at Rainbow Bridge and cross together as a pack to Heaven’s Gate with all the other canines from your mortal existence.
Mourn your loss, but celebrate him. He’s in a better place, one that’s pleasant and with infinite number of yummies and chewies to keep him busy until the leader of the pack arrives.
Our condolences.
Keith W
December 10, 2010 at 7:10 pm
Thank you for sharing Gilmore’s story Bob. It’s moving how open you are with sharing about your personal life. I feel like you’re a friend, and we’ve never so much as exchanged words.
I hope these words and the many other caring responses help to ease your pain just a bit.
Steve
December 10, 2010 at 7:14 pm
My thoughts are with you guys. I know how hard it is to loose a loved member of the family.
Stuart
December 10, 2010 at 7:51 pm
Prayers are offered for your family and your 4-legged friend …
One of my most painful moments was having to put a pet cat to sleep after a bout of congestive heart failure. What is it about pets that raises so many emotions.
God bless you and your family this Christmas.
Anibal
December 10, 2010 at 8:02 pm
Sorry Bob.
Michael Aaron Dennis
December 10, 2010 at 8:21 pm
I am so sorry. We lost our dog in June after 14 wonderful years and I know the heartache first hand. I wish I knew the right words to write other than I very sorry.
John
December 10, 2010 at 8:39 pm
RIP Gilmore. If there is a doggie heaven, you are hanging with a great pack of pooches.
Dan
December 10, 2010 at 9:01 pm
My condolences.
Steve McKisic
December 10, 2010 at 9:23 pm
Sincere condolences to you and your family, Bob.
janet blake
December 10, 2010 at 10:22 pm
ohhhh. happy adventures gilmore.. xx
Victor
December 10, 2010 at 10:32 pm
Condolences…
Fred Brockman
December 10, 2010 at 11:19 pm
Man it’s hard. I’ve buried in their old ages a brilliant border collie found abandoned as a runt in a dumpster and the three cats he herded, including an orange tiger that could give dogs lessons on unconditional love. Tears running down my face every time. No clue how the hereafter really works, but it sure would be good to see everyone again. Wishing you and yours peace, love and comfort.
Toby
December 10, 2010 at 11:51 pm
What a sweet looking companion … thank you for sharing your stories.
Andrew
December 11, 2010 at 12:07 am
So sorry to here about Gulmore. Best wishes to you and your family.
Mike
December 11, 2010 at 12:55 am
That makes me sad.
oliver
December 11, 2010 at 1:27 am
really sorry to read that, Rob. I still miss my lab, Blé, after many years. the cats too, charlie and Tiberius. something about the animal innocence and knowledge/acceptance of mortality… it struck me more even that the death of family members.
my condolences
oliver
l.a.guy
December 11, 2010 at 1:42 am
I’m embarrassed to admit it, but I had five relatives pass away in the space of three years, including one whose hand I held as their pulse drifted away in an ICU room, and none of them hurt the way losing a pet does.
Condolences, Bob. Truly sad to see this. You’re to be commended for not only your writing but also the patience you showed for Gilmore in his final days.
RIP Gilmore.
Kiran
December 11, 2010 at 2:04 am
Condolences..
Darwin
December 11, 2010 at 3:51 am
Sorry to hear about your loss, my condolences.
J.D. Muriel
December 11, 2010 at 4:01 am
To die at the feet of your master, being loved and cared, is not a bad death for a dog. Thank you for sharing this, my condolences for you and your family.
I am SO very sorry to hear about Gilmore. I am very sure you and your family gave him a loving, happy and fulfilled life that you can all look back on with affection.
This year, my wife and I have lost a few of our dear companions – we call all our animals our ‘kids’ – and what others on this list is so true – in some ways is does hurt and one feels the loss even more than close relatives.
Animals do not lie, cheat, steal, hurt or backbite. Their love and affection is truly unconditional, and is a lesson to all humankind.
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family,
Regards,
Griff
Doug G.
December 11, 2010 at 4:37 am
Bob, I offer my heartfelt condolences to you and yours on the loss of Gilmore. I’ve lost my own two cats in the space of the last half year, so I have some inkling as to what you’re going through. In a world where our animals are not always treated with the love and care they deserve, when they are treated well, it is noted somewhere to your credit, and Gilmore’s brethren know that you cared for one of theirs, and support you through your loss.
So sorry for your loss. Good for you for putting in the time at the end. Gilmore had to appreciate it.
Blessings,
Richard
Guy Murphy
December 11, 2010 at 7:01 am
I’m sure you were a great comfort to him in his final days. I nursed a dog with snake bite once, good to know you did the best you could for him …
David Sheeks
December 11, 2010 at 7:36 am
Sorry to hear that, I know that can be hard on the whole family. When I read “Dog Days” the other day recalling the pet psychic story made me laugh again. I’m sure you and the family will have lots of memories to do the same.
jan
December 11, 2010 at 7:36 am
glad you could stay with him
Stas
December 11, 2010 at 8:07 am
Another long time reader here, wanted to say that only people who had dogs can understand the height of the loss. My biggest condolecences for your loss, and may your other dog carry you through these difficult times.
Freeman
December 11, 2010 at 9:44 am
I’d like to add my condolences. I’ve lost two of my four dogs (all over ten years old) this month myself, so I know what you’re going through.
Sorry to hear it, it sucks, but then that’s because Chez Cringely cares and provided him with a good home. When the pain of the loss is less acute, why not give another dog the chance of a great home?
mike
December 11, 2010 at 2:11 pm
It’s so hard. Bless your family for loving him so much. I look at his soulful face and know that he felt your love until the last moment. When we are so involved in the care of our fellow mammals at the end, we learn much that is inexpressible. You’ve done a magnificently humane thing.
I hope you have saved some of his DNA for you might decide to clone him someday. Then you can call the little guy Happy… 😉
So long Gilmore…
Aaron
December 11, 2010 at 5:23 pm
I’m sorry to hear that. I lost a loved one recently myself.
Knowing it was probably coming just changed how my grief was expressed compared to past losses I had. I’m glad you and your family had the time to be with him and show him your love.
Remember the good times, the unconditional love, and the rest slowly fades. It’s hard, but unfortunately that’s how life works. Thinking about you and yours.
Barb Miles
December 11, 2010 at 8:58 pm
Bob – My heart aches for you and the family. We lost our Scottie in August, and we know how much you miss your Gilmore Buddy. I have to believe they are waiting for us at the end of the rainbow bridge – take care. Barb
John
December 11, 2010 at 10:01 pm
My deepest condolences. I personally find that it’s harder losing a pet than losing people.
Paul Allen
December 12, 2010 at 8:58 pm
i have never had pets, so i guess i don’t understand, but how is this possible?
So sorry to hear Gilmore has passed away. I’ve left the vet crying hard even when I’ve known it was time. It hurts, but we are lucky when we are able to do our best to give a dog a good life all the way through.
Steve
December 12, 2010 at 7:15 am
Really sorry about the loss of Gilmore. Some people remember their lives in stages, pre/post college, marriage, kids etc. For me it’s always the dogs I had at the time. You don’t fully realize it til they’re gone but those critters really tether you to the best of yourself. Hard to be an ass around a good dog.
Sorry about that parting, and best wishes to the whole family
Dear Cringely family,
Our sincerest condolences to you as you mourn the loss of Gilmore. Our dogs, Oscar and Coconut, said they felt a profound sadness at the news of Gilmore’s passing. Sort of like Star Wars when Princess Leia’s home world winks out of existence. Our other two Boston Terriers will be waiting for Gilmore at the Rainbow Bridge and will welcome him home.
Thanks Mr. Cringely for writing your wonderful words all these years. I have never appreciated any of your words more than your kind words about your dog.
Take care and keep carrying on, for I am sure that is what Gilmore would have wanted. They always want the very best for us, even when we are busy trying to do the very best for us. Know that you gave him a very good life and in the end, the very greatest kindness.
Clay, Maggie, Oscar and Coconut.
Bojoe
December 12, 2010 at 5:48 pm
Condolences…..I’m with you.
Sandy
December 13, 2010 at 2:04 am
Bob, I know you won’t be reading any of these posts yet… You need to take the time to heal with your family. I propose a week of silence in honor of Gilmore… No stories from you, Bob and no posts from us. …to Gilmore!!!
Bruce Yelen
December 13, 2010 at 6:06 am
My condolences. The sad thing about having pets is that we’re destined to lose them, but our lives would be so much poorer without them! Here’s to Gilmore!!!!
My condolances Bob, my own beloved labrador died of Lymphoma three weeks ago, while I’ll never understand the specifics, I can relate somewhat. All the best to you and your family.
Anita Martino
December 13, 2010 at 9:40 am
Robert, i was just sent your post about Gilmore from a friend. i cannot tell you the joy i received to think we can reach our pets, and had a great laugh over “oh that”. what can i say, from a devout dog lover, my thoughts are with you today.
Chicken
December 13, 2010 at 10:24 am
My condolences to you and your family. We recently lost a much-beloved kitty to old age and can feel your pain.
Now, at the risk of being heartless, I think this episode, which plays out every day for humans and animals, needs to be examined. What was gained from sleepless nights, vet and drug bills, drawn-out anxiety and a miserable end-of-life?
Meanwhile, perfectly healthy young animals are being euthanized daily.
Personally, I think an earlier death with dignity is better for both the living and the dead. When 50% of your LIFETIME medical costs are typically incurred in the six months before you die, some thinking is in order.
I’ve had my own brush with death (brain tumor) and given this issue a lot of thought. So I look forward to reading your reflections in your always though-provoking blog.
So sorry for your loss, Bob. It’s so hard to lose them, but so rewarding to love them, as I’m sure you’ve found. My wife always says that grief is the price we pay for the gift of love. It’s always hard, but always worth it. God bless you for being such a caring ‘dad’ to Gilmore. May you be reunited someday on the bridge.
Dan Katz
December 13, 2010 at 12:47 pm
Bob, our hearts go out to you and your family, and of course to Roscoe too. I wish I had some wisdom to lessen the pain… I’m sure that Gilmore is telling all of his new friends at the Rainbow Bridge about his wonderful family and how lucky he was to have all of you. May peace be with you.
Dan Cormack
December 13, 2010 at 1:40 pm
Hi Bob,
I am very sorry for your loss. You and your family brought unimaginable joy to his life and he to you and your family. I know you’ll cherish those days. Although it’s of little help, you at least had some warning that this may happen and could spend some quality time together, if only just looking at dogs on YouTube or drinking that dirty water from the lake..
MrMarkAZ
December 13, 2010 at 1:49 pm
Hi,
New reader, still going through all the postings. Saw the picture of Gilmore and knew immediately what had happened and how much the loss means to you (I’ve helped my family adopt, care for, and ultimately euthanize several rescued goldens). I Wanted to extend condolences on the loss of Gilmore, who had a much better life in your home than he could have ever imagined.
David Yedwab
December 13, 2010 at 4:14 pm
Bob,
My truest condolences to you and your family on the loss of Gilmore … as has been expressed much above, only true dog lovers know how you feel. As we say about Irish Setters — “may the shamrocks fall softly/”
Bill Kunz
December 13, 2010 at 4:49 pm
So sorry for your loss.
Regards
Bill
Richard Booy
December 13, 2010 at 5:13 pm
I would like to offer my condolences. They’re all member of the family – stay strong and keep the good memories in memoriam.
Richard
Deb H
December 13, 2010 at 6:03 pm
Bobby: I know how hard this is. So sorry to hear about your dog. May the good memories of him and the knowledge that you provided him a good, loving home help you all through this.
Mike
December 13, 2010 at 10:23 pm
I am so sorry.
Losing a beloved dog is always painful.
Please try to remember that Gilmore was a happy creature, full of joy.
When dogs can no longer be happy and joyful, it is time for us to make the decision that is best for them.
Again, my condolences on your loss.
Tony
December 14, 2010 at 4:16 am
We offer our condolences on you and your family’s loss of a dear pet.
HR
December 14, 2010 at 7:37 am
We have all been there, Bob, and it does hurt, and is
hard to explain to young children. Thanks for your fine column
which I have enjoyed for many years. Wishing you all the best.
I’m sorry for the loss of your family’s companion. I lost 2 in the last year and it about killed me (Bo, 13, and Lady approx. 14)
We cannot allow a lifetime of happiness to be overshadowed by our loss. But as my grandmother put it, “the true cost of ownership is only known the day we lose them.”
The following two things sums up the unique bond between man and dog for me… and let me know the loss I was feeling had been felt many times before.
– Steve
“This soldier, I realized, must have had friends at home and in his regiment; yet he lay there deserted by all except his dog. I looked on, unmoved, at battles which decided the future of nations. Tearless, I had given orders which brought death to thousands. Yet here I was stirred, profoundly stirred, stirred to tears. And by what? By the grief of one dog.”
-Napoleon Bonaparte, on finding a dog beside the body of his dead master, licking his face and howling, on a moonlit field after a battle. Napoleon was haunted by this scene until his own death.
“Near this Spot
are deposited the Remains of one
who possessed Beauty without Vanity,
Strength without Insolence,
Courage without Ferosity,
and all the virtues of Man without his Vices.
This praise, which would be unmeaning Flattery
if inscribed over human Ashes,
is but a just Tribute to the Memory of
BOATSWAIN, a DOG.
Who was born in Newfoundland May 1803
and died at Newstead Nov. 18th 1808.”
– Found on the monument for Lord Byron’s dog, Boatswain, on the grounds of Byron’s seat in Nottinghamshire, Newstead Abbey.
Mike
December 15, 2010 at 7:57 pm
Bob, sorry for your loss of a family member.
Friends are hard to lose, I still think of many (with fond memories). Last night I was talking about chasing squirrels and how this job seems to get passed down from old dog to new. Canuck got tired of Maggie nipping at her ears and told Maggie go in the back yard and chase my squirrels, so she did. Once Canuck was sure that Maggie knew how to chase squirrels, Canuck passed on. (Funny, she never pass chase ball down.) Maggie, told Sarah to quite nipping at my ears. Go in the back yard and chase squirrels. Once Sarah had this down pat, Maggie passed on. I am afraid that Bo, is no longer nipping at Sarah’s ears and has gotten pretty good at chasing squirrels. (Sarah makes sure that Bo knows that I am Sarah’s). Life goes on and you remember your best friends for what you gave them and what they gave you. There is always a tear and a smile with the memory.
Matt
December 16, 2010 at 4:13 am
I was touched by your column and as someone who has lost a large number of beloved pets, you have my deepest sympathy. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Matt
December 16, 2010 at 2:04 pm
Deepest sympathy: 14 years ago I had to put my 16 year old Lab ‘Carly’ to sleep: I still grieve to this day………. but we had 16 years of hunting, walking and fun……Your column touches all animal lovers, thank you
To me, loosing a pet is more difficult than loosing a family member. As a aspy geek I don’t interact very well with people but I loved my last dog. As I’ve gotten older I’ve developed some nasty allergies to dogs, which sux, and my kids have some as well so we don’t have any pets that shed.
The following link is for the video which won the 2010 Vimeo Awards, “Last Minutes with ODEN”. Chosen as Best Video, as well as Best Documentary and Community Choice, this video documents Jason Wood’s last few minutes with his cancer-stricken dog Oden.
(I don’t think we realize how much we are emotionally invested in our pets, until we lose one, especially like this. The power of this video lies not with the physical loss of the dog, but in how the owner’s emotions reflect that loss. I’ve been through this process a few times, and hope I never have to go through it again.)
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how much the loss means to you (I’ve helped my family adopt, care for, and ultimately euthanize several rescued goldens). I Wanted to extend condolences on the loss
Sorry to hear that Bob.
Sorry about Gilmore. Went through same a while back. Very heartbreaking.
I’m sorry to hear that, having read about your attachment to him and having been in the same situation myself before. One of the wonderful things about pets is that they celebrate life and never fear death – in this they are a model for our lives.
Condolences.
Condolences, Bob.
I hope your kids are able to take it okay. I hope you’re able to take it as well as can be expected also.
So sorry. My heart goes out to you.
Many commentators often wonder why dogs get more sympathy than people. For example, a blind man and his seeing eye dog get hit by a car. The dog will get more get-well-soon cards than the man.
I think it is because dogs give us the type of loyalty and unconditional love that humans can only aspire to. You were loyal and faithful to your dog until the end, for that you are a better person.
Gilmore will always occupy a special place in your heart, I feel for your loss.
Regards,
Joe Dokes
Sorry to hear that Bob. It can’t be easy having had your dog for so long. You have my sympathy.
I’m sorry. He was lucky to have you.
I’m sorry to hear it Bob. It says a lot about the character of a man to read how you slept with and cared for him like you did as well as your sublimely succinct comment on it being hard to be with Gwen when she needed someone most. I’m glad there are people like you in the world – I’m fairly certain Gilmore and Gwen were glad too.
I read your blog for your reputation in technology and expertise in journalism but those few posts about Gilmore and Gwen are humbling in their humanity. Thank you.
I’m so sorry, Bob. 🙁 Condolences to your whole family.
My condolences.
very to sorry to hear it . . .
It’s my first post, Bob, but I’ve been reading your column for many years.
My condolence on your loss.
I thought I’d step out of the shadows to give my condolences.
Really sorry to hear it Bob.
You and your family are in my thoughts.
Condolences on your loss Bob.
Sorry to hear that. I’m glad you were able to be with him. You’re a good example for us. Thank you.
Love to you and your family..
So sorry to hear. My condolences to you and your family.
Rest in peace Gilmore.
Sorry for your loss.
Really sorry to hear that, Bob. It’s the curse of dog-lovers to always outlive our canine friends. I’m sure that the joy he gave you far outweighs the pain of losing him.
Condolences and sympathies Bob.
P
My sincere condolences go out to you and your family. Good-bye Gilmore.
I am truly sorry for your loss.
R.I.P. Gilmore. And condolences, Bob. Looks like he was a wonderful companion.
So sorry to hear about the loss of your family member, and I am sure Gilmore will be missed. My condolences to you and your family.
I’m very sorry for your loss. He sounded like a great part of your family.
You have my condolences.
Very sorry to hear that. Condolences on losing a close family member.
I’m very sad to hear this. My condolences.
Bob, my wife and I have been there too, caring for our aging pets. Condolences to you and your family.
He was lucky to have you…
Deepest sympathies for you and your family. May he rest in peace.
Sorry, Bob. We just lost a pet this week, too, so I understand what you’re going thru. How is Roscoe taking it?
After seeing this I went back a few days to your article titled “Dog Days.” Having not read it before and hearing it in your own words after his passing, I’m sure this entire article carries a different tone. It’s one that moved me. I am sorry for your loss and thank you for your words.
Dennis
My condolences Bob.
Condolences, Bob. Another friend of mine lost their dog this week too.
Condolences Bob. Gilmore was blessed to have a companion like you though.
A wise person, identity unknown, once described heaven as the place that when you get there, all the dogs you’ve ever known will come running to greet you.
Condolences.
Oh. Something wrong with my eyes today. I hope that turns out to be true.
I’m sorry for your loss. Please accept my condolences.
Very sorry to hear about Gilmore. My thoughts are with you, Mary Alyce, the kids, and, of course, Roscoe.
Very sad. I will give my dogs an extra hug in honor of Gilmore.
I’m sorry you’ve lost a good friend and companion. Condolences to the family as well.
We’ve been where you are. We understand. Our deepest sympathy to you and your family.
I’m very sorry for your loss.
My condolences, they are wonderful creatures why love unconditionally. I currently have two and I dread the day this comes. Remember the fun times.
I’m sorry for your loss. It’s the hardest thing to lose a friend, and pets are the best friends.
Peace Gilmore.
RIP Gilmore. Bob, we are thinking about your family and you.
Condolences.
Bob and family,
Bonnie, Belle, Buster, Molly, Claude, and I send our deepest condolences. Our dogs love so deeply because their time is so short, blessed are those that know them as friends.
Tim
My condolences.
Sorry to hear that, Bob…..please, be happy that you rescued him and gave to him as much as he gave to your family.
So sorry Bob. The passing of a friend is a terrible thing.
Sorry, Bob. Condolences to everyone there.
May Gilmore rest in peace. My sincerest condolences.
Bob,
So sorry to hear about your loss.
Klaatu said it well:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bNFCKfyOKcc
Our own dog died a bit over a year ago. He was our “first son”. It was cancer. It took two weeks from finding it to putting him to sleep as it was too spread out already.
My heart is with you.
So sorry Bob. We lost one just a couple of weeks ago. So painful. Take care.
It is sad to lose our furry friends. I’m sure if Gilmore could speak, he would have said, “Thanks for loving me so much.”
Wheuuuw ……
Tough day for you, I know.
God, I love my little buddies, and hate to see them go.
Unknown author, great story :
Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog’s owners, Ron, his wife Lisa, and their little boy Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle.
I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family we couldn’t do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.
As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience.
The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker ‘s family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away.
The little boy seemed to accept Belker’s transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while after Belker’s Death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives.
Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, ”I know why.”
Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me. I’d never heard a more comforting explanation. It has changed the way I try and live.
He said,”People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life — like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?” The Six-year-old continued,
”Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don’t have to stay as long.”
My wife’s cat of 15 years got very sick and I had to bring him to the vet to be put down. I sat in the parking lot after cried. I know your pain.
My condolences too
Sorry for the loss of your puppy Bob =(
Condolences Bob and family. Labs are the sweetest, most loving and lovable, faithful, funny and dumb beings on the planet. : ) Every one should have a lab even though it hurts like hell to lose them.
Bob and family: my condolences.
The good news is, you were able to make his last days more comfortable.
Many of us have been in your shoes, if that’s any comfort.
Substitute Gilmore for Lou Lou. My condolences, Bob.
RIP Lou Lou 1993-2010
May 22nd, 2010
Come old girl and walk with me
One more time together.
Foreign smells and stuff all out of place.
I’ll be your eyes, I’ll hold your head.
But I wish I could avert my face.
I’ll stroke your muzzle, try to calm your fears.
I know it hurts, but not much longer.
Sorry if my voice is gruff, I think it’s from the tears.
With shrouded form and shovel…
Come old girl and walk with me
One more time alone.
My condolences to you and your family.
sorry- my sympathy to you.
Sorry for your loss Bob and family.
I feel your pain. Our condolences to you and your family.
-Jerry
I’m so sorry for your loss. It must be so hard for the entire family.
Our condolences. May he rest in peace.
RIP Gilmore
My folks have been through this same very difficult situation with 3 dogs. I really don’t know how they coped. They each gave such love, joy, & companionship. That’s what they say to this day that it’s all that joy, love, etc. They had a Sheltie, Skipperkie, and a retied show dog(Sheltie).. So remember all those happy times you’ve had, it will help in time, really it does….
I send my condolences. In these dark days remember you and
your family gave Gilmore the best and happiest days of his life.
Condolences, Bob and family.
There is nothing like a dog. Nothing.
The 2 dogs we’ve had over the last 20 years – a Border Collie and a German Shepherd – were practically doing differential equations, they were so smart. And they were absolutely members of the family.
The only downside to a pet – particularly a dog – is that it’s so hard to say goodbye.
Thank you for giving Gilmore such a good home – every dog deserves such a chance – and bless you for giving him your time and your company down the homestretch.
Sorry to hear that Bob. I’ve been through this myself.
Condolences. I know I’m repeating what others have said, but I hope you can take comfort in the time you had with him and the life you were able to give him.
Sorry to hear about that. Never easy when a pet passes.
I’m sorry for your loss. The best thing you can remember is that he knew he was loved.
I’m very sorry to hear that. Been there a few times now; it’s so hard. You and the family have all my sympathy.
My most sincere condolences. 🙁
First time your web site has made me tear up. Godspeed Gilmore.
Awwww. So sad 🙁
Very Sorry. :(_
Very sorry to hear this, I hope you and yours heal well and before too long
Sorry to hear.
Gone for just a while. You’ll meet up with him again at Rainbow Bridge and cross together as a pack to Heaven’s Gate with all the other canines from your mortal existence.
Mourn your loss, but celebrate him. He’s in a better place, one that’s pleasant and with infinite number of yummies and chewies to keep him busy until the leader of the pack arrives.
Our condolences.
Thank you for sharing Gilmore’s story Bob. It’s moving how open you are with sharing about your personal life. I feel like you’re a friend, and we’ve never so much as exchanged words.
I hope these words and the many other caring responses help to ease your pain just a bit.
My thoughts are with you guys. I know how hard it is to loose a loved member of the family.
Prayers are offered for your family and your 4-legged friend …
One of my most painful moments was having to put a pet cat to sleep after a bout of congestive heart failure. What is it about pets that raises so many emotions.
God bless you and your family this Christmas.
Sorry Bob.
I am so sorry. We lost our dog in June after 14 wonderful years and I know the heartache first hand. I wish I knew the right words to write other than I very sorry.
RIP Gilmore. If there is a doggie heaven, you are hanging with a great pack of pooches.
My condolences.
Sincere condolences to you and your family, Bob.
ohhhh. happy adventures gilmore.. xx
Condolences…
Man it’s hard. I’ve buried in their old ages a brilliant border collie found abandoned as a runt in a dumpster and the three cats he herded, including an orange tiger that could give dogs lessons on unconditional love. Tears running down my face every time. No clue how the hereafter really works, but it sure would be good to see everyone again. Wishing you and yours peace, love and comfort.
What a sweet looking companion … thank you for sharing your stories.
So sorry to here about Gulmore. Best wishes to you and your family.
That makes me sad.
really sorry to read that, Rob. I still miss my lab, Blé, after many years. the cats too, charlie and Tiberius. something about the animal innocence and knowledge/acceptance of mortality… it struck me more even that the death of family members.
my condolences
oliver
I’m embarrassed to admit it, but I had five relatives pass away in the space of three years, including one whose hand I held as their pulse drifted away in an ICU room, and none of them hurt the way losing a pet does.
I know exactly what you mean, LA guy.
Condolences, Bob. Truly sad to see this. You’re to be commended for not only your writing but also the patience you showed for Gilmore in his final days.
RIP Gilmore.
Condolences..
Sorry to hear about your loss, my condolences.
To die at the feet of your master, being loved and cared, is not a bad death for a dog. Thank you for sharing this, my condolences for you and your family.
Hi Bob,
I am SO very sorry to hear about Gilmore. I am very sure you and your family gave him a loving, happy and fulfilled life that you can all look back on with affection.
This year, my wife and I have lost a few of our dear companions – we call all our animals our ‘kids’ – and what others on this list is so true – in some ways is does hurt and one feels the loss even more than close relatives.
Animals do not lie, cheat, steal, hurt or backbite. Their love and affection is truly unconditional, and is a lesson to all humankind.
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family,
Regards,
Griff
Bob, I offer my heartfelt condolences to you and yours on the loss of Gilmore. I’ve lost my own two cats in the space of the last half year, so I have some inkling as to what you’re going through. In a world where our animals are not always treated with the love and care they deserve, when they are treated well, it is noted somewhere to your credit, and Gilmore’s brethren know that you cared for one of theirs, and support you through your loss.
Sincere condolences. RIP Gilmore.
My sympathies to you and your family. Losing a good dog is painful. Remember the good times with him.
Joe
Bob,
So sorry for your loss. Good for you for putting in the time at the end. Gilmore had to appreciate it.
Blessings,
Richard
I’m sure you were a great comfort to him in his final days. I nursed a dog with snake bite once, good to know you did the best you could for him …
Sorry to hear that, I know that can be hard on the whole family. When I read “Dog Days” the other day recalling the pet psychic story made me laugh again. I’m sure you and the family will have lots of memories to do the same.
glad you could stay with him
Another long time reader here, wanted to say that only people who had dogs can understand the height of the loss. My biggest condolecences for your loss, and may your other dog carry you through these difficult times.
I’d like to add my condolences. I’ve lost two of my four dogs (all over ten years old) this month myself, so I know what you’re going through.
:'(
Sorry to hear it, it sucks, but then that’s because Chez Cringely cares and provided him with a good home. When the pain of the loss is less acute, why not give another dog the chance of a great home?
It’s so hard. Bless your family for loving him so much. I look at his soulful face and know that he felt your love until the last moment. When we are so involved in the care of our fellow mammals at the end, we learn much that is inexpressible. You’ve done a magnificently humane thing.
RIP Gilmore
I hope you have saved some of his DNA for you might decide to clone him someday. Then you can call the little guy Happy… 😉
So long Gilmore…
I’m sorry to hear that. I lost a loved one recently myself.
Knowing it was probably coming just changed how my grief was expressed compared to past losses I had. I’m glad you and your family had the time to be with him and show him your love.
you and your family have my sympathy.
http://open.salon.com/blog/froggy/2009/03/12/brown-eyed_girl
Sorry, man. You gave him a good life.
Remember the good times, the unconditional love, and the rest slowly fades. It’s hard, but unfortunately that’s how life works. Thinking about you and yours.
Bob – My heart aches for you and the family. We lost our Scottie in August, and we know how much you miss your Gilmore Buddy. I have to believe they are waiting for us at the end of the rainbow bridge – take care. Barb
My deepest condolences. I personally find that it’s harder losing a pet than losing people.
i have never had pets, so i guess i don’t understand, but how is this possible?
The wife is wired that way, too. Doesn’t give a crap about me, but any of her animals gets a hangnail, and all hell breaks loose.
From what I can tell it amounts to this: people last longer, animals are acquired on purpose, animals (the tame ones, anyway) don’t argue, and so on.
Sorry to hear this. I have a lost a couple in the past few years and it is tough. Your family is in our thoughts.
So sorry to hear Gilmore has passed away. I’ve left the vet crying hard even when I’ve known it was time. It hurts, but we are lucky when we are able to do our best to give a dog a good life all the way through.
Really sorry about the loss of Gilmore. Some people remember their lives in stages, pre/post college, marriage, kids etc. For me it’s always the dogs I had at the time. You don’t fully realize it til they’re gone but those critters really tether you to the best of yourself. Hard to be an ass around a good dog.
Sorry about that parting, and best wishes to the whole family
It never ceases to amaze me how much people care for animals and so little for each other.
Animals are completely innocent, whereas most people are not. I think that makes all the difference.
ciao Gilmore….
He’ll be waiting…
http://rainbowsbridge.com/poem.htm
Dear Cringely family,
Our sincerest condolences to you as you mourn the loss of Gilmore. Our dogs, Oscar and Coconut, said they felt a profound sadness at the news of Gilmore’s passing. Sort of like Star Wars when Princess Leia’s home world winks out of existence. Our other two Boston Terriers will be waiting for Gilmore at the Rainbow Bridge and will welcome him home.
Thanks Mr. Cringely for writing your wonderful words all these years. I have never appreciated any of your words more than your kind words about your dog.
Take care and keep carrying on, for I am sure that is what Gilmore would have wanted. They always want the very best for us, even when we are busy trying to do the very best for us. Know that you gave him a very good life and in the end, the very greatest kindness.
Clay, Maggie, Oscar and Coconut.
Condolences…..I’m with you.
Bob, I know you won’t be reading any of these posts yet… You need to take the time to heal with your family. I propose a week of silence in honor of Gilmore… No stories from you, Bob and no posts from us. …to Gilmore!!!
My condolences. The sad thing about having pets is that we’re destined to lose them, but our lives would be so much poorer without them! Here’s to Gilmore!!!!
My condolances Bob, my own beloved labrador died of Lymphoma three weeks ago, while I’ll never understand the specifics, I can relate somewhat. All the best to you and your family.
Robert, i was just sent your post about Gilmore from a friend. i cannot tell you the joy i received to think we can reach our pets, and had a great laugh over “oh that”. what can i say, from a devout dog lover, my thoughts are with you today.
My condolences to you and your family. We recently lost a much-beloved kitty to old age and can feel your pain.
Now, at the risk of being heartless, I think this episode, which plays out every day for humans and animals, needs to be examined. What was gained from sleepless nights, vet and drug bills, drawn-out anxiety and a miserable end-of-life?
Meanwhile, perfectly healthy young animals are being euthanized daily.
Personally, I think an earlier death with dignity is better for both the living and the dead. When 50% of your LIFETIME medical costs are typically incurred in the six months before you die, some thinking is in order.
I’ve had my own brush with death (brain tumor) and given this issue a lot of thought. So I look forward to reading your reflections in your always though-provoking blog.
So sorry for your loss, Bob. It’s so hard to lose them, but so rewarding to love them, as I’m sure you’ve found. My wife always says that grief is the price we pay for the gift of love. It’s always hard, but always worth it. God bless you for being such a caring ‘dad’ to Gilmore. May you be reunited someday on the bridge.
Bob, our hearts go out to you and your family, and of course to Roscoe too. I wish I had some wisdom to lessen the pain… I’m sure that Gilmore is telling all of his new friends at the Rainbow Bridge about his wonderful family and how lucky he was to have all of you. May peace be with you.
Hi Bob,
I am very sorry for your loss. You and your family brought unimaginable joy to his life and he to you and your family. I know you’ll cherish those days. Although it’s of little help, you at least had some warning that this may happen and could spend some quality time together, if only just looking at dogs on YouTube or drinking that dirty water from the lake..
Hi,
New reader, still going through all the postings. Saw the picture of Gilmore and knew immediately what had happened and how much the loss means to you (I’ve helped my family adopt, care for, and ultimately euthanize several rescued goldens). I Wanted to extend condolences on the loss of Gilmore, who had a much better life in your home than he could have ever imagined.
Bob,
My truest condolences to you and your family on the loss of Gilmore … as has been expressed much above, only true dog lovers know how you feel. As we say about Irish Setters — “may the shamrocks fall softly/”
So sorry for your loss.
Regards
Bill
I would like to offer my condolences. They’re all member of the family – stay strong and keep the good memories in memoriam.
Richard
Bobby: I know how hard this is. So sorry to hear about your dog. May the good memories of him and the knowledge that you provided him a good, loving home help you all through this.
I am so sorry.
Losing a beloved dog is always painful.
Please try to remember that Gilmore was a happy creature, full of joy.
When dogs can no longer be happy and joyful, it is time for us to make the decision that is best for them.
Again, my condolences on your loss.
We offer our condolences on you and your family’s loss of a dear pet.
We have all been there, Bob, and it does hurt, and is
hard to explain to young children. Thanks for your fine column
which I have enjoyed for many years. Wishing you all the best.
My deepest sympathies , Bob
I’m sorry for the loss of your family’s companion. I lost 2 in the last year and it about killed me (Bo, 13, and Lady approx. 14)
We cannot allow a lifetime of happiness to be overshadowed by our loss. But as my grandmother put it, “the true cost of ownership is only known the day we lose them.”
The following two things sums up the unique bond between man and dog for me… and let me know the loss I was feeling had been felt many times before.
– Steve
“This soldier, I realized, must have had friends at home and in his regiment; yet he lay there deserted by all except his dog. I looked on, unmoved, at battles which decided the future of nations. Tearless, I had given orders which brought death to thousands. Yet here I was stirred, profoundly stirred, stirred to tears. And by what? By the grief of one dog.”
-Napoleon Bonaparte, on finding a dog beside the body of his dead master, licking his face and howling, on a moonlit field after a battle. Napoleon was haunted by this scene until his own death.
“Near this Spot
are deposited the Remains of one
who possessed Beauty without Vanity,
Strength without Insolence,
Courage without Ferosity,
and all the virtues of Man without his Vices.
This praise, which would be unmeaning Flattery
if inscribed over human Ashes,
is but a just Tribute to the Memory of
BOATSWAIN, a DOG.
Who was born in Newfoundland May 1803
and died at Newstead Nov. 18th 1808.”
– Found on the monument for Lord Byron’s dog, Boatswain, on the grounds of Byron’s seat in Nottinghamshire, Newstead Abbey.
Bob, sorry for your loss of a family member.
Friends are hard to lose, I still think of many (with fond memories). Last night I was talking about chasing squirrels and how this job seems to get passed down from old dog to new. Canuck got tired of Maggie nipping at her ears and told Maggie go in the back yard and chase my squirrels, so she did. Once Canuck was sure that Maggie knew how to chase squirrels, Canuck passed on. (Funny, she never pass chase ball down.) Maggie, told Sarah to quite nipping at my ears. Go in the back yard and chase squirrels. Once Sarah had this down pat, Maggie passed on. I am afraid that Bo, is no longer nipping at Sarah’s ears and has gotten pretty good at chasing squirrels. (Sarah makes sure that Bo knows that I am Sarah’s). Life goes on and you remember your best friends for what you gave them and what they gave you. There is always a tear and a smile with the memory.
I was touched by your column and as someone who has lost a large number of beloved pets, you have my deepest sympathy. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Deepest sympathy: 14 years ago I had to put my 16 year old Lab ‘Carly’ to sleep: I still grieve to this day………. but we had 16 years of hunting, walking and fun……Your column touches all animal lovers, thank you
I’m extremely sorry for your loss. I’ve been a fan and follower of yours for years.
Oh, I’m so sorry to hear this. I have lost quite a few animal companions in the past, and it never seems to get any easier. 🙁
Really sorry to hear about this Bob, our Vallhund passed away at 15 and the loss was profound.
:'( – I feel your pain.
To me, loosing a pet is more difficult than loosing a family member. As a aspy geek I don’t interact very well with people but I loved my last dog. As I’ve gotten older I’ve developed some nasty allergies to dogs, which sux, and my kids have some as well so we don’t have any pets that shed.
Sincerely sorry for your loss,
Dan
Our condolances.
The following link is for the video which won the 2010 Vimeo Awards, “Last Minutes with ODEN”. Chosen as Best Video, as well as Best Documentary and Community Choice, this video documents Jason Wood’s last few minutes with his cancer-stricken dog Oden.
(I don’t think we realize how much we are emotionally invested in our pets, until we lose one, especially like this. The power of this video lies not with the physical loss of the dog, but in how the owner’s emotions reflect that loss. I’ve been through this process a few times, and hope I never have to go through it again.)
PLEASE NOTE: This short (6 minutes, 15 seconds) video contains some strong language, and may not be suitable for viewing in a work environment. The video is emotionally intense, but extremely powerful, well-crafted and beautiful (IMHO).
“Last Minutes with ODEN”: http://vimeo.com/8191217
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how much the loss means to you (I’ve helped my family adopt, care for, and ultimately euthanize several rescued goldens). I Wanted to extend condolences on the loss